Date Night 11/07/2009
 
The other day my wife was talking with a customer on the phone. She is in sales so she has been fortunate to make a number of friends across the country. Anyway Vicki’s friend asked how here day was going and Vicki told him everything was going great and she was looking forward to the date we had for later that evening. His response to her was a date? You have a date with your husband? To which Vicki replied yes don't you date your wife? To which his response was, we haven't had a date since we got married he said.
Now until a few years ago, I honestly have to say I was of the same mentality, a date were married, we don't need to date, who do I have to impress...
Until the reality of romance hit me, and I realized how important dating is.
Okay this is a horrible analogy, but marriage and dating are like a car and maintenance, if you don't take care of your car, oil, coolant, brakes, waxing, etc your car will begin to rust and crumble, loose its value and eventually your looking for a new car, because the current condition of your car is less than pleasing to look at let alone drive, if it will even move due to the lack of proper care.
Well your relationship is the same way. If you don't feed your spouse with love, understanding, tenderness, romance and caring, it will also wither. A marriage can only run for so long without the proper nutrients required.

Romance is a necessity in marriage, always giving to the desires of one's heart is essential. When I say giving to one's heart, by that I mean serving the other. A small act of service would be bringing your spouse a cup of coffee in the morning, cooking breakfast, bringing her flowers for no reason, other than to say I love you. Just as important is the heart of a man. Now men are a little different to say the least, but equally important to a man is his wife desiring him, passionately, respecting him, boost our ego ladies, as you require a tender touch, a loving word and compliments, we desire a night of passion. You should be courting each other until your dieing day.

A date night once a week or at least once a month is essential to your relationship. Plan a dinner out, a movie or even a lunch together. During which time yhave children, keep it to a minimum, no more than fifteen minutes if possible.

This is your time together and the focus should be on you and your spouse. The time of day when you go on your date is not important, but the time together is paramount to your marriage.

At first the dating thing might be a little strange, uncomfortable perhaps, but I promise after a couple of times of going out, just the two of you, the changes you will see in your marriage and romance will be amazing. The effort is minimal and the payoff is staggering.ou can discuss anything that comes to mind. If you choose to discuss your kids for those of you that